Wow. This book is something. The language, the style really speaks to me.
It talks about how our childhood affects our future or current love relationships.
We need to talk about it, we need to describe it, if not it will go on haunting our life and our happiness.
Are you an Avoider? Self sufficient because there are no other options? Kadang2 kejadian masa kita kecik, made us jadi avoider. Okay, kita survive tapi in real relationship with our loved ones, memang naya lah kalau teruih bawak perangai Avoider ni…
Kdg2 benda nie jadik kat emotionally unavailable parents.
“Any event that forces premature independence can imprint children to disengage and deaden their feelings.”
We owe it to ourselves and our loved ones to learn about soul words.
Are we a pleaser, a vacillator ..?
This book pulak cerita pasal how important to be compassionate, kind to ourselves.
Forgiveness, is also seen from a different light for me from this book. Ada sample words to use, comtohnya I forgive myself for all my parts in contributing to the so and so … and I forgive him or her in causing such and such ..
Everytime I use it, actually baru setat semalam je, a kind of relief, tenang, macam unknotting …patut ah orang kata bukan senang nak maafkan orang.
Maaf, maaf tapi rupanya masih bersisa, tak totally maaf.
Sama ah, for me, I thought I dah forgave and moved on tapi sekali teringat pasal etc etc ..hrmm ..naik gak suhu kat hati nih ..geram tur rupanya masih ada ..tp bila I recite and mentioned in my heart the so and so-s, rasa mcm healing is starting to take place.
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